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A Thought on Facebook Etiquette

I don't know about all of you, but when a long-lost someone from out of the blue friends me on Facebook, I usually drop them a message saying something to the effect of, "Hey, it's been a long time. Great to hear from you." Usually I attach a message like that when I am the one doing the "friending" as well. Maybe I am old fashioned, but I think it's polite to respond, particularly when someone is clearly excited to be back in touch with you. But I can't help but get the feeling that somewhere along the line, "friending" someone became a substitute for communicating with them directly. I write a message to someone, and their response is often simply to "friend" me back.

Should I be flattered? Thankful?

Have we really gotten to the point where communication with someone is defined as "allowing them access to your social network profile?"

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Comments (5)

Jan 28, 2009
Naomi Dauermann said...
Yeah. I've been wondering about this. Sometimes people ask to be friends and you can't remember them very well. Or not at all. Can one say, "Uh...and you are...?" or whatever you'd say if you ran into this person on the street.
Jan 28, 2009
Chaim Dauermann said...
Well, yes, of course I think it's appropriate to ask who they are. Then again, I find that most people who need to identify themselves do so. In fact, I tend to get more personal communication when friended by someone I hardly know than when friended by someone I haven't seen in years. I use Facebook as a took to allow me to communicate with people *more* but I'm beginning to think that some people use it as a tool to help them communicate with people *less.*
Jan 28, 2009
Christian Jones said...
I know what you mean. It seems like some people just post things on their own pages, or even just lurk, and somehow by just viewing others' pages and having yours viewed you're "communicating." Very odd to me, I have to admit.
Jan 28, 2009
Christian Jones said...
By the way, just discovered this site, seems quite cool!
Jan 28, 2009
Multagonal said...
It started with IM and has continued to progress to what you're talking about. Communication is taken so less seriously now and there is really only a new "pseudo etiquette" that basically revolves around not annoying other people.

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